12 Ways to Give Her a Clitoral Orgasm
Prepare to take your oral sex skills to the next level

June 21, 2022

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You probably have a few great sex tricks up your sleeve, and you’ve likely given a woman a clitoral orgasm many times. But are you doing enough? 75% of women only achieve orgasm with some sort of clitoral stimulation, so you can never give that particular part of her body enough attention.

Surprise her tonight with one of these new moves, utilising not just your tongue but also your lips, fingers, toys and even your gums and teeth.

1. Suck and Nibble

You most likely have the licking down when it comes to using your tongue on her, but a move often overlooked is actually combing your lips and tongue to actually suck on her clit.

“The entire vulva consists of sensitive nerve fibres,” says Dr. Ian Kerner, author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman. “So being able to suck on the glans or the head of the clit and lightly nibble on her inner and outer labia, or suck a little on labia, will stimulate the nerve fibres.”

The sucking will also lead to increased vasocongestion, or more blood flow to the vulva and the clitoris, which Kerner describes as “kind of like a little vacuum pump.”

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2. Gums and Teeth

“Think of yourself as an immovable point of resistance and let her do the work,” says Kerner. “You can press into the tops of your teeth and gums on the area above the clitoral glans where the clitoral hood is, and just lay there providing that hard and still point of resistance.”

This move works especially well if she wants to “sit on your face.”

3. The Alphabet

Dirty sex acts, such as a Hot Carl or Dirty Sanchez, aren’t the only sex moves that have nicknames. Enter “The Alphabet” method of clitoral stimulation. It may have been the first oral sex tip you heard as a teenager, but it’s stood the test of time.

“This is used more in the early arousal foreplay time, as opposed to providing that persistent and consistent clitoral stimulation [that leads to climax],” says Kerner. “It’s a good way to take an A to Z tour of her vulva.”

How’s it done? “You can start by ‘painting’ the alphabet with your tongue on the wider canvas of her entire vulva, as opposed to on the tip of her clitoris,” he says. “You can start with the A on the outer labia then cross the A on her clit and move over to the other side. It’s a great way to tease and tantalise and set her well on her way to clitoral orgasm.”

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4. Paint the Fence and Windshield Wipers

“It’s fun to start by blowing your warm breath over her clitoris to get her going,” says Dr. Ava Cadell, author and founder of sexpert.com. “Then you can flick your tongue over her clit, alternating from up and down.”

Imagine you are painting a fence from top to bottom, she says. And then “go into the windshield wiper move of using your tongue to go side-to-side”.

5. Don’t Forget the Shaft

While a lot of attention is spent on the tip of the clitoris, the full length of it, which is estimated to be approximately four inches long, is sometimes forgotten.

“Slide your fingers to either side of her clitoral shaft,” explains Cadell. “Pull and push the clitoral hood across the clitoris and move in circles, diagonals, and spontaneous un-choreographed fashions so as to stay unpredictable.”

She adds: “Use one finger flicking all around the clitoris but not directly on it. To bring your partner to clitoral orgasm, once she is at the height of pleasure, you’ll want to maintain a steady consistent stroke.”

6. Play the Harmonica

Once your partner is in the midst of an orgasm, add some oral vibration to her experience.

“Make your lips into an O and take her clitoris in your mouth,” says Cadell. “Then make humming sounds as you suck on her clit, as if you are playing a harmonica, so that she can feel the warm, wet vibrations.”

7. Full Hand Massage

You know how you like your balls to be cupped? Now do that to her entire vulva with added pressure to her clit.

Kerner explains how: “When you are laying next to her, wrap your hand around her vulva so your fingertips are pressed against her G-spot. The inside of your fingers are pressed against the clitoris with the base of your palm against her pubic bone. Then get into a rhythm of stimulation.”

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8. Bring on the Waterworks

We’re not talking about vaginal ejaculation or golden showers here; water play is one of the first methods many women use to get off when they start masturbating at an early age in the privacy of their bath time.

“Water play is important,” says Cadell. “When using a handheld shower head, let the water spray over her body in between her legs, then move it closer to her clitoris moving the water stream back and forth.”

9. The Penis Massage

Another manual method is using your erect penis as a “human dildo” to rub up against her clit.

“This is good if you are laying side by side facing each other, spooning her, or even on your knees above her holding the tip of your penis in your hand to massage and rub her clit,” says Kerner. “She can also grab your penis and use it like she would a sex toy on her clit.”

10. Lip Service

“Touching or sucking her inner lips actually pulls on the clitoris and it’s really useful for women whose clitoris gets too sensitive,” says Dr. Laurie Mintz, author of A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex.

The clitoris has 8,000 sensory nerve endings, so direct contact can often be too much stimulation for some women.

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11. Go Global

Kerner (and the author of this story) both swear by We-Vibe as the best couples vibrator for clitoral action. Its U-shape is inserted into her vagina, with one end hitting her G-spot, and the other end on her clit.

She wears it during intercourse, so you can feel the vibration as well.

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“Incorporating a vibrator into clitoral stimulation has benefits for both you,” says Mintz. “You can focus on your own pleasure during intercourse, and she can hold the vibrator and stimulate herself.”

12. Arousal Oils

There is an array of arousal creams, oils and balms designed to bring tingling or heating sensation to her clit.  “Go slowly with trying these out,” advises Mintz.. “Some women are too sensitive and the sensation can be too intense.”

*This article was originally published on Men’s Health US