We’ve filled your calendar with 52 weekends’ worth of pulse-racing tips from the world’s top sexperts. Use these 52 Amazing Sex Tips to make the summer heat last all year long in your bedroom (or wherever else the mood may take you…)
1. MAKE A DATE
Get out your diary: research shows that her most heightened… erm… period for sexual pleasure is from the 12th to the 14th days of her menstrual cycle.
– The Journal of Sex Research
2. YOU MUST BE JOKING!
Women dig on guys with a sense of humor – especially when it’s self-referential irony. Use that razor-sharp wit of yours to defuse the situation if something goes wrong in the sack.
– Journal of Evolutionary Psychology
3. RUNNING LIKE CLOCKWORK
You and your sweetheart should lace up your running shoes. Why? Because running for three-and-a-half hours a week increases the sex drive by 75%.
– Kinsey Institute, Bloomington
4. BE HER SOLE MATE
“Put her best foot forward. The soles of her feet have meridians which could influence her sex drive. Give her a foot massage, and pay special attention to her heels.”
– Anne West, author of Absolut Sex
5. PUMP UP HER VOLUME
A women’s arousal increases when she hears fast songs with a simple rhythm. And – you guessed it – the modern classic Only By The Night by Kings of Leon hits pretty high on the charts… especially the killer track “Sex on Fire”.
– Pennsylvania State University, State College
6. CHEEKS IN, CHEST OUT
Suck in your cheeks: it makes your jawline appear more angular, and a recent study revealed that women are attracted to masculine attributes like this. Apparently a Superman jawline suggests superhuman sexual fitness. Now go and prove it.
– Journal of Experimental Psychology
7. POUR A GLASS
One or two glasses a day of red wine have been found to increase the female sex drive – and that’ll boost your chances of a good time in bed (or elsewhere).
– Concordia University, Montreal, Canada
8. GO BUMP IN THE NIGHT
Hire/purchase/download (legally, mind you…) a horror film. Tense movies have been shown to increase a woman’s heartrate, and her arousal.
– Journal of Personality and Social Psychology
9. RELOCATE
Move out of the bedroom and onto the couch… or the washing machine… or anywhere your heart takes you. During experiments like these your body produces dopamine, which amplifies your (and her) orgasm. Just make sure beforehand that you’re not likely to be disturbed… unless, of course, the risk only increases your excitement!
– University of Kentucky, Lexington
10. THE MORNING AFTER THE NIGHT BEFORE
Breakfast tip: salmon. It’s rich in arginine, an amino acid that keeps you energised for longer. Serve it up with scrambled eggs on toast to make an impression.
– British Nutrition Foundation, London
11. PLAY EXTRA TIME
Before game time, eat 110 grams of watermelon. That little serving will give you a 150 miligram dose of the amino acid citrulline, which will – according to researchers who’ve actually studied this stuff – prolong your erection by exactly 3.8 minutes.
– Texas A&M University, City of College Station
12. WHO’S THE FAIREST OF THEM ALL?
“She is, obviously – and you should tell her so. She’ll blush, smile coyly, and dismiss it, but ultimately, that’s what all women want: to be told they’re beautiful. And when your partner knows you think she’s beautiful and sexy… Well, that’s when the sex is the best.”
– Marie Sommer, author of Dirty Girl
13. ICE CREAM, YOU SCREAM
Have you ditched the meal plan, and gone on a diet? That’s too bad: you may be suffering from a calcium and phosphorus deficiency, which will reduce your sexual desire. Fix it with ice cream. Share a few scoops with your partner, and take turns licking it off each other’s bodies. (Don’t worry about the kilojoules: you’re about to burn them off again anyway.)
– Smell and Taste Research Foundation, Chicago
14. THE ROOT CAUSE
Strengthen your virility with ginseng, a root that soothes, relieves stress and strengthens your erection by enhancing the levels of nitric oxide in your blood. It’s easy to take as a tea or capsule.
– Wayne State University, Detroit
15. PUMP IT
Muscular men have an average of four sex partners more in their lives than their flabby buddies. Start the day with a few push-ups and crunches and those won’t be the only muscles you’re working.
– University of California, Oakland
16. LOVE AT FIRST BITE
“At the right moment, the lightest of bites can go a long way. Just make sure it’s a light nibble: you’re not an extra in Twilight.”
– Marie Sommer, sex writer
17. KNEAD YOU TONIGHT
Giving her a post-coital massage will extend the flow of her feel-good hormone oxytocin – boosting your chances of a repeat (and threepeat) performance.
– The Journal of Sexual Medicine
18. IN YOUR EYES
Look her in the eyes for 60%of the time that you communicate with her. This releases the chemical compound phenylethylamine, which increases her feelings of attraction.
– Kinsey Institute, Bloomington
19. HOUSE MATE
Sharing the workload when it comes to household chores is perceived by women as a sign of affection. Translation? The more you take out the trash and clean up around the house, the more (and better) sex you’ll get.
– Journal of Evolutionary Psychology
20. LEND A HAND
Thirty-two percent of South African women say that clitoral stimulation “by him” (that’s you, boet) is most likely to make her orgasm. Compare that to the 9% who put clitoral stimulation by themselves in top spot, and it’s pretty clear she’s looking to you to lend a hand.
– 2013 Women’s Health Sex Survey
21. YOU SNOOZE, YOU LOSE
Don’t just roll over and fall asleep. Your post-coital chances of going back for more increase when you cuddle afterwards, as the physical closeness boosts her oxytocin levels.
– Kinsey Institute, Bloomington
22. HIT THE RIGHT NOTES
If you want to give her a perfume, opt for one with sandalwood notes. Sandalwood is associated with the pheromones that boost her social instincts. Estée Lauder Sensuous (30ml, R595, esteelauder.co.za) is a good place to start.
– Northumbria University, Newcastle
23. STIRRED… THEN SHAKEN
At the bar, order a litchi martini for your Bond girl. These fruits are packed with magnesium, which promotes blood flow to female genitalia – enhancing her pleasure and increasing her chances of orgasm.
– Sichuan University, China
24. TALK TO HER
Want to talk dirty? Then whisper those sweet nothings into her right ear. That ear is linked to the part of her brain that’s responsible for activity. Naughty activity, in this case…
– Gabriele D’Annunzio University of Chieti-Pescara, Italy
25. HOLD HER NOW
Research indicates that women crave a feeling of safety and security. Heat things up during foreplay by embracing her tenderly – this will increase her oxytocin mirroring levels, relaxing her by calming the part of her brain that warns her of danger.
– University of Groningen, Netherlands
26. TAKE A BATH
Relax in a bath, with the water heated to 38°C. This will increase the blood flow to your penis – which is even better when she jumps in to join you!
– Holistic Medical Clinic, London
27. ASSUME THE POSITION
When in doubt, keep it simple. When it comes to sex positions, missionary (with her legs up) ranks as the favourite among men and the second favourite among women, while woman on top ranks first among women and second among men. No need to get all complicated…
– 2013 Men’s Health/Women’s Health Sex Surveys
28. TAKE A BREATH
“Try this: tell her to close her eyes and lie perfectly still – then wait for five beats, and breathe gently on her pussy. Whether it’s under a pair of jeans, under just her knickers or under absolute nothing, she’ll love it either way.”
– Anne West, sex writer
29. GO TO BED… TO SLEEP
Treat yourself as often as possible to a good night’s sleep. While you’re in la-la land, your body produces testosterone, which is known to increase the desire for sex.
– Journal of Applied Physiology
30. SALUTE THE SUN
An hour in the sun increases your testosterone level by 69% – so soak up some rays, and you’ll double your potency.
– Kinsey Institute, Bloomingdale
31. TIGHTEN UP
“I call it The Clamp, and it works like this: she lies on her tummy and crosses her legs, and you enter her. It’s great for you (it feels tighter), and it’s great for her (it’s more intense).”
– Marie Sommer, sex writer
32. USE PEDAL POWER
Four weeks of cycling at a moderate speed will increase your testosterone level by a whopping 97%. Now ditch the dodgy cycling shorts, and give her the Tour.
– Journal of Strength & Conditioning Research
33. BREAST IS BEST
Not in the mood for foreplay? Accelerate her orgasm by slowly and rhythmically pampering her nipple and the lower part of her breasts. How? We’ll leave that up to you.
– University of Texas, Austin
34. DON’T FOCUS ON THE G-SPOT
“Go on a completely open-minded voyage of discovery. Between the two of you, you’ll soon figure out where her buttons are.”
– Marie Sommer, sex writer
35. TURN IT OVER
“Want to try something new? Anal stimulation can feel great for women. But approach with caution, by stimulating her vagina and anus simultaneously.”
– Sex researcher Barry R Komisaruk, Rutgers University
36. JUST SAY “OM…”
One hour of yoga a day will increases your stability threefold. And working on an average of 7.3 minutes, that means you’ll get 14.6 minutes of extra power in your penis… all thanks to positions like the lotus. Namaste!
– The Journal of Sexual Medicine
37. ONE HOT BIRD
Cook up some grilled chicken with chilli marinade. Protein (meat) and capsaicin (chilli) are known to raise a woman’s heart rate. We’ll leave the dessert choice up to you.
– Concordia University, Montreal
38. GAME TIME
During sporting competitions, a woman’s testosterone levels can increase by up to 49%. For a real win-win situation, take her on a date to the squash court.
– Rockefeller University, New York
39. ON THE TIP OF YOUR TONGUE
“Not all women are into oral sex – and not all men are prepared for that little newsflash. Do it right, by moving your tongue slowly and gently instead of sloppily or in a staccato rhythm. And use a flat tongue: for a woman, that feels so much better than if you just tickle the surface.”
– Marie Sommer, sex writer
40. DON’T GET COLD FEET
The chances of a woman achieving orgasm increase by 30% if their feet are warm. Weird, right? Your move: give her a foot rub, or get her a pair of thick woolen socks.
– Texas A&M University, City of College Station
41. THERE’S THE RUB
Boost your massage skills with evening primrose. It’s known to contain vitamins C and E, which are linked to an increase in female pleasure.
– Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy
42. STAY CLOSE
If you maintain intimate body contact after climax, you’ll last 15 minutes longer on your second time round.
– Kinsey Institute, Bloomington
43. LIGHTS OUT
A woman’s pupils will dilate (get bigger) when she’s in the mood for sex. Dim the lights to enhance that mood. (Sure, it’s a cliché… but the science is sound.)
– University of Chicago
44. LET THE DOGS OUT
Try kneeling doggy style. It’s the third-favourite position of both South African men and women, and it increases the intensity of your orgasm by 18%, because your frenulum (that’s the bit of skin that connects your foreskin and your glans) get direct stimulation.
– 2013 Men’s Health/Women’s Health Sex Surveys; University of Groningen, Netherlands
45. BE AN EARLY BIRD
“For a heterosexual woman, there’s nothing more erotic than the warmth of the bed and the smell of the man next to her. This is connected to the bonding hormone oxytocin, which radiates strongly from a man first thing in the morning. Another point in favour of early-morning sex? She doesn’t have to worry about things like hair and makeup, so she’s free to let her inhibitions go.”
– Marie Sommer, sex writer
46. HOLD ON!
To last longer in the sack, switch positions. Go from 69 to Pretzel Dip (look it up: dev.mh.co.za/sex-women)… anything and everything, as long as you both enjoy it.
– University of New Brunswick, Canada
47. PREPARE FOR HARD TIMES
Running out of juice? Add a glass of pomegranate juice to your breakfast menu: it’ll help increase the blow flow to your penis.
– International Journal of Impotence Research
48. NOT IN THE MOOD?
If your libido needs a natural boost, help yourself to some Horny Goat Weed. (Quiet in the back there.) This amusingly-named herb (also known as Epimedium, or Bishop’s Hat, Rowdy Lamb Herb and – stop laughing, you lot – Randy Beef Grass) is available from pharmacies, and is known to boost your testosterone level. Take about 200 miligrams about 90 minutes before business time for best results.
– Complementary Medicine Association, Southport, Australia
49. PAY HER LIP SERVICE
Ignoring your kissing technique? Don’t: men who are good kissers have a 30% higher chance of getting repeat business.
– Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy
50. LOOK, DON’T TOUCH
“Women send non-verbal signals when they want sex, so wait for the green light: dilated pupils, a breathy voice, compulsive crossing and uncrossing of her legs… and asking bedroom questions like: ‘Are you tired?’”
– Anne West, sex writer
51. DON’T PACK AWAY THE TOYS
“Vibrators and dildos aren’t just toys for women to play with in their lonely hours. Men who see sex toys not as competition, but as reinforcement, and have the appropriate self-confidence to deal with them, enjoy better sex.”
– Barry R Komisaruk, author of The Science of Orgasm
52. DON’T GIVE PEACE A CHANCE
If you’re arguing all the time, something ain’t right in your relationship. But that doesn’t mean you should avoid confrontation entirely either. The heightened emotions are a perfect cocktail for make-up sex.
– University of Texas, Austin
