How to Make Online Dating Work For You
Why Sit in the Bleachers, When You Can Join the Game

July 14, 2015

You will not get a stellar response rate but by avoiding these tips you can get a match and if no one responds, rest assured, it’s through no fault of your own.

1. Be Original
Yes, this might sound like a cliché, but trust me you do not want to be in a situation where you send the same message to two women who know each other and better yet (but bad for you) are hanging together, sharing stories about a charming guy who sent this cute message.

That is not the way to a women’s heart or contact list.

2. “All That Glistens Is Not Gold”
This famous line was written by William Shakespeare in the Merchant of Venice play which is classified as a ‘tragedy’; and if you’re not careful, online dating could become sort of a tragedy for you. As vain as you think women might be, we do not like it when men comment on our appearances in the beginning; unless you taking lessons from the- “SMS 35050, if you looking for love “adverts on TV.

Rein in the urge to call her ‘cutie’ or say ‘hello, gorgeous’. We do like to hear whether you find us attractive, but not in the early stages, it could make it seem as if we have nothing significant to connect over.

3. “It’s Too Late To Apologize”
We all have been through that tense feeling when you want to message somebody you fancy, but you anticipating about how they would sigh when they read your text which causes you end up apologizing for having messaged them. It’s not a great look.

4. The Last Contender
Remember the golden rule that applies in work environments and dinner parties: never discuss religion, race and politics. Well that rule applies to online dating too. You just started talking and getting to know each other and you had not been a date yet but you had your first argument. It could be acceptable only if you’re mature enough to, agree to disagree.

5. Do The Creeper
Some men believe that opening with their bedroom fantasy or preferences is a good way to break the ice and show women how confident you are and leave them wanting your attention. Think again, not only is it too soon but it will send them running in the opposite direction (maybe not running, as its online but if it were Tinder, they would swipe left) and you end up looking like a creep.

6. “I’ve Been Working So Hard”

Bob Seger worked hard and had a woman to go home to, but if you make the person you’re messaging feel as if they auditioning to talk to you, it could put them off. Then you might lose your ‘someone’ to go home to. If we have to think hard and long, do research in order to answer your question, then you have gone too far.

7. ‘Googliness’
If you do not understand what the person’s profession is or interests are, then Google it but do not ask the person to explain it. Nobody likes to type an essay on the work that they do especially on online dating sites, its tiring.

8. Guilty As Charged
If we did not respond to your messages, it does not mean we did not see them. We just do not want to respond, however there could be the odd chance where we do not know what to say but we all know that seldom happens with women. Do not make us feel guilty for not responding in what you deem a timely manner; it’s not going to lure us.

9. Pick- up lines
‘Woman you have 209 bones in your body, do you want me to give you another one?’
Something that no guy should use, period, it sounds cheesy and not as clever as you were hoping it did. Just be yourself and genuine. If a woman is truly interested in you, she will like you for who you are not those corny pick-up lines.

But just for comedic effect, here’s another one, “Baby, you got more legs than a bucket of KFC”.


– Alice Paulse